Find your most natural social style!

Some of us are great at fitting in and adapting. Others love to lead. Many of us fall somewhere in between. The idea of "leading vs. following" is a classic psychological concept that has been thoroughly explored, but rarely well-defined. For example: can we call someone who enjoys being the manager of large projects at work, but needs to work for a large company to feel comfortable truly a leader? Take this test to learn more about your style. This isn't just any other "leader vs. follower" test. There is a twist!

14 Questions


1 - Which of the following is closest your ideal work situation?

A - Finding a great group of co-workers, a good job, and a boss who treats me well.
B - Running projects where a great team of people happily perform tasks that I set for them while meeting goals.
C - Working independently on projects on my own time with nobody telling me how to do anything.

2 - In school or work, what was/is your social role among your peers?

A - I tend to make the decisions for my friends about what we do and who we spend time with, even if I am not direct about it. I am kind of the trend-setter!
B - I tend to go with the flow and feel good when spending time with a group of people that I am comfortable with.
C - I'm not a group person at all, and I like to meet people from various walks of life, or I can be a bit of a loner.

3 - Which of the following sounds like the best kind of romantic relationship to you?

A - A relationship with love and connection, but where we encourage each other to pursue our own passions and life goals as well.
B - A relationship where my partner allows me plenty of scope to make decisions and does not mind going along with some of my ideas.
C - A relationship where I can always depend on my partner for love and support and to be there for me.

4 - Do you tend to get frustrated when someone asks you to do something but does not bother to explain how to do it?

A - Yes
B - Not really

5 - Do you enjoy convincing people to adopt your ideas?

A - Yes
B - Not really

6 - While at work, are you somewhat resistant to getting involved in social relationships with co-workers?

A - Yes
B - Not really

7 - Do you get frustrated with groups of indecisive people and often "make a decision" for the group to get things moving?

A - Yes
B - Not really

8 - Is it important to you to agree with others and follow social conventions?

A - Yes
B - Not really

9 - Do you find people fascinating from a sociological perspective, but also see yourself as separate from others?

A - Yes
B - Not really

10 - Imagine yourself working for a large company within a profession you enjoy. Without taking salary in account, pick the role you would most like to have while working with the company from the following list:

A - CEO/President
B - Customer Service Representative
C - Executive Assistant
D - Team Lead/ Project Manager
E - Independent Contractor
F - Business Consultant

11 - Imagine yourself at a party with many of your family members and/or friends. Of the following options, what aspect of the party are you most likely to enjoy?

A - Talking to a few people one-on-one.
B - Mixing in with some good friends and talking about life other people.
C - Arranging the party and heping put it all together.
D - Helping out with what the hosts need and making people comfortable.
E - Finding some fun/engaging activity to do on my own.
F - Being entertaining and making sure people enjoy themselves. I can definitely be the life of the party!

12 - Of the following fictional people, who do you admire the most?

A - Seth, the hard-working mechanic who faithfully supports his family by working overtime and is always involved with community and religious activities.
B - Alexa, the pioneering woman who counsels victims of childhood abuse and shares their stories in an effort to get lawmakers to change their policies on neglectful parents.
C - Katie, the strong and steadfast single mother of two who dutifully and thanklessly spends her nights cleaning hospital sheets and beds for the constant influx of new patients who are suffering with various ailments.
D - Ed, the top executive who has taken his company to new heights by adopting an all-environmentally-friendly "all-recycleable office materials" policy and pushing other large companies to do the same.
E - Carrie, the new senator who engages her community by making frequent speaking appearences and explaining the actions of government in an effort to promote transparency and honesty in an era where people have become mistrustful.
F - Mark, the independent photojournalist who has captured stunning images of war-torn countries and published them independently to spread news of the atrocities of impoverished areas of the world.

13 - Of the statements below, which do you feel is the closest match to your role in the world?

A - Being a loyal, caring, good, honest and dependable person who others can rely on for love, support and encouragement.
B - Going my own way, blazing my own trail, and developing my natural strengths for the benefit of the world.
C - Taking a stand for people and being a chamption for a cause to improve others lives and lead them to a better place.

14 - Which of the following one-word descriptions best fits you?

A - Unique
B - Influential
C - Dedicated